So this blog has massively exceeded my expectations! I have had messages and thanks from people that even I didn’t know fought the same battle as me! I have also had great comments from people who have never battled it themselves.
I just want to give a little shout out here, to all the people who have never experienced depression, anxiety or panic attacks themselves, but live with or support someone who does. Our battle is hard and our support network is so important to us. You are pretty badass yourself for supporting someone when you could never really know how it feels! I understand how hard it must be for you too. From the bottom of my heart I thank you.
I have also had more and more people tell me stories of people just not understanding. There are still so many people who don’t believe what they can’t see or just don’t know how to handle it.
There are some things that are really really not ok…
Telling someone who has just opened up to you about depression that, “it’s not that bad” or “just be happy” NOT OK
Looking in disgust when someone tells you that they have panic attacks, then asking “so when you’re having a panic attack, do I need to throw a glass of water in your face?” NOT OK
Telling someone with depression that they are tired all the time because “you obviously don’t exercise enough” and “workout more and diet” as if we don’t worry about that shit enough NOT OK
Telling anyone regardless of their state of mind to “just go and kill yourself” ABSOLUTELY NOT OK!
The main reason I started this blog was to help people who fight the same fight. Another reason was to educate people who don’t. I get it, you don’t understand or you don’t know what to say. You have grown up in a generation that didn’t recognise it as an actual issue. You are young and joking about suicide means nothing to you. But here are some tips for you:
You don’t understand or don’t know what to say? Educate yourself. One in four people suffer with mental illness. You wouldn’t tell someone with a broken leg to just walk it off,it’s not that bad. Don’t tell someone with a mental illness to just be happy.
You’ve grown up in a generation that didn’t recognise it as an actual issue? It’s recognised now, it is 2017 people, get with the programme. It is an actual issue and if there wasn’t so much stigma surrounding mental illness, more people would seek the help they need.
You are young and joking about suicide means nothing to you? That is a poor excuse! This one in particular makes my blood boil. It is completely unacceptable in any situation. You never know the battle some people are fighting and those words could be what pushes someone over the edge! It is not a joke and it is not funny. Don’t be the final straw that makes someone give up their fight.
If you want to educate yourself there are so many websites that could provide you with information. There are loads but here are a few: